Know Thyself

Note: This is an exercise in getting to know yourself and what you want. If you haven’t read the previous blogs on What Marriage is Not, please do so before you start this. Exercise 1: Know Thyself and What Thyself Wants. Now that you know what marriage isn’t, you need to understand why you no longer want to be single. And it had better not be for the reasons mentioned in the previous blogs! Yes, I know you’re busy, but you need to take time each day to pray and to go over your day and examine yourself quietly and calmly giving yourself a space to grow, to change and to find different ways to get what you want.Some things to think about are: Who am I? What am I doing here? What is the purpose of my life? What is God’s plan for my life? (That is sometimes not so obvious – I keep asking him and I still don’t know – but I think I’m getting close.)Is there a reason why I am living, and is there a reason why I am living single? How much of this is my own creation, and what can I do about it? This is silly, you may be thinking, “I know who I am.” But, do you really? As mentioned before, you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. And you have to know yourself before you can love yourself.Some other questions to ask yourself:Did I achieve everything I wanted to accomplish today? What did I do to today to accomplish what I want? How did other people see me today? How did I see myself today? What did I do to improve myself or understand myself better today? How do I feel about myself today? Did I take time for myself today to plan and then review my day? If not, what got in the way.Where do I see myself a year from today? Where do I see myself five years from today? Where do I see myself ten years from today? What do I really want, short term and long term? What am I doing everyday to get it? What does the future hold for you? God only knows, right? While I lived in Florida, we had some visitors named Andrew, Charley, Frances, Ivan and Jeanne. Needless to say, these hurricanes got in the way of the plans and goals of many people. Everyone had to accept the fact that their world was literally turned upside down and they had to manage to turn it right side up again and get on with their lives. You may think, “Why should I have plans and goals if life’s going to turn it upside down?” Life is a journey not a destination. If you don’t know where you’re going, you’re going to end up somewhere you don’t want to be. If you need help in getting to know God and in turn, discover what His will is for your life, first you need to have an intimate relationship with Jesus. Visit this website for answers.God Bless, Giselle
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  1. I WANT TO FIRST OF ALL THANK THE LORD FOR WHAT HE IS USING YOU TO ACCOMPLISH IN THE LIFE OF SINGLES – I PRAY YOU CONTINUE WITH UNTIL HE RETURNS.PLEASE, I WILL LIKE TO KNOW WHETHER IT IS PROPER FOR A SINGLE TO HAVE SEXUAL THOUGHT OR NOT.SECONDLY CAN GOD GIVE YOU THE TIME OF HUSBAND THAT YOU DO NOT WISH TO HAVE.IS IT WRONG TO CHOOSE A HUSBAND ACCORDING TO YOUR HEART DESIRE?CAN YOU FOR CHRIST SAKE HELP ME TO STAND FINANCIALLY IF YOU CAN?THANK YOU FOR GIVING ME YOUR TIMEGOD BLESSVICTORIA

  2. Victoria, Thank you for your comments. I'm glad some one's actually reading what I write. I've tried to answer your questions below:> PLEASE, I WILL LIKE TO KNOW WHETHER IT IS PROPER FOR A SINGLE TO HAVE SEXUAL THOUGHT OR NOT.Sexual thoughts are going to come into our heads no matter what. We're bombarded by sexual images all the time. What God wants us to do is not follow through with the thought. Shake it out of your head and think of something else. Avoid looking, listening, watching improper Internet sites, music, TV shows or movies. For instance, I try to avoid R rated movies. I just find it offensive. As you grow deeper in your relationship with Christ, you see that you will start finding things that you watched or listened to less and less entertaining. > > SECONDLY CAN GOD GIVE YOU THE TIME OF HUSBAND THAT YOU DO NOT WISH TO HAVE.I'm not sure what you're asking here. God gave us free will to choose what we do in life including choosing our mates. He may put the person in our paths but if we don't recognize that person as "the one", they'll just walk by. It's probably happened to me more than once. We also manage as relationship are growing to mess things up. The best thing to do is to pray about a potential mate and ask God if this person is the person He wants you to be with. Listening for God's isn't easy. Sometimes it will come when we're quiet or a trusted Christian friend will say, "this is the guy for you." Or the Holy Spirit will stir your heart. > IS IT WRONG TO CHOOSE A HUSBAND ACCORDING TO YOUR HEART DESIRE?On the other hand. We can choose the wrong person. We can base the relationship on physical chemistry (and that's a hard one to ignore) and ignore the spiritual chemistry. Read: http://singles.giselleaguiar.com/what-is-a-soulmate.htmlhttp://singles.giselleaguiar.com/Avoiding-Mr-or-Ms-Wrong.html> > CAN YOU FOR CHRIST SAKE HELP ME TO STAND FINANCIALLY IF YOU CAN?Trust in God. "Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?"And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. ~ Matthew 6:25-34Here are some more articles that may help:http://singles.giselleaguiar.com/avoiding-false-intimacy.htmlhttp://giselleaguiar.blogspot.com/2009/07/what-marriage-is-not-part-1.htmlhttp://singles.giselleaguiar.com/commitmentphobes.htmlHope this helps. But the best advice I can give is to Trust and Obey God. If it's His will that you find a mate, it will happen. Be patient and persevere. His timing may not be our timing, but it's always right. Blessings in Christ, Giselle

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